For those who don't know, a few nights ago I instigated an argument with Waldo based on comments he'd made. I said a number of things about the way gms and locker rooms view him based on my experience. All of them were absolutely true.
However. When it comes to the subject matter in question it turns out that I was offbase. The residual anger and hurt Waldo has been carrying around towards a specific individual is echoed throughout the league at an alarming rate that I simply didn't know about.
It was really really easy for me to believe Waldo was just being an asshole. It's usually easy to believe that about Waldo. He has tendencies. Across multiple leagues.
What he doesn't do (to my knowledge) is wantonly and regularly attack people to the point that they're emotionally hurt by it. He was not the aggressor here. He was a wounded party. His feelings about the matter are real and valid and I only bring up the rest because it's arguably even more important to judge someone like Waldo properly. He has some things coming base don how he behaves. What he dealt with wasn't that.
My response to him was absolutely wrong under the circumstances. My assumption of his guilt was absolutely wrong. My assessment of him operating at a level of asshole above the one he actually occupies was wrong. My assumption of ACTUAL toxicity on his part was wrong.
Waldo, like any one else, deserves to be judged fairly based on his actual actions. I have found out that I did not do that. For as many times as I've beaten home the point that Waldo acts like an asshole, there's a vast difference what he does and what a truly nasty person does. I was wrong to jump to the conclusion that he was on the other side of that equation. I can't take back what was exchanged Waldo but I can sincerely say I'm sorry. I came at you like a freight train, as I'm inclined to do when I'm invested. I can really only promise to try to do better about making sure I have the facts next time. I can also tell you that I'm working on trying to change things enough so that there isn't a trail of hurt people next time.
I would prefer if this thread held a minimal amount of jokes and speculation. Waldo deserves to have his rightness on this shown with the same light as what I thought his wrongness was. If you have any questions about what's gone on or what I'm alluding to, you may feel free to ask me directly. You know how to find me. Except of course for the one person that shouldn't have to ask.
And in the future, for anyone who sees this, I want to ask you to do something. If someone in this league attacks you, harasses you, treats you like garbage, or whatever it is in a way you don't like. Tell someone. Tell your GM. Talk to a site owner. Talk to a member of HO. Talk to me. Whatever it takes. One person should never be able to ruin the fun or large parts of the fun for so many fucking people without almost any peep about things happening. This league and this hobby are about fun. They should remain so.
-AdamS
However. When it comes to the subject matter in question it turns out that I was offbase. The residual anger and hurt Waldo has been carrying around towards a specific individual is echoed throughout the league at an alarming rate that I simply didn't know about.
It was really really easy for me to believe Waldo was just being an asshole. It's usually easy to believe that about Waldo. He has tendencies. Across multiple leagues.
What he doesn't do (to my knowledge) is wantonly and regularly attack people to the point that they're emotionally hurt by it. He was not the aggressor here. He was a wounded party. His feelings about the matter are real and valid and I only bring up the rest because it's arguably even more important to judge someone like Waldo properly. He has some things coming base don how he behaves. What he dealt with wasn't that.
My response to him was absolutely wrong under the circumstances. My assumption of his guilt was absolutely wrong. My assessment of him operating at a level of asshole above the one he actually occupies was wrong. My assumption of ACTUAL toxicity on his part was wrong.
Waldo, like any one else, deserves to be judged fairly based on his actual actions. I have found out that I did not do that. For as many times as I've beaten home the point that Waldo acts like an asshole, there's a vast difference what he does and what a truly nasty person does. I was wrong to jump to the conclusion that he was on the other side of that equation. I can't take back what was exchanged Waldo but I can sincerely say I'm sorry. I came at you like a freight train, as I'm inclined to do when I'm invested. I can really only promise to try to do better about making sure I have the facts next time. I can also tell you that I'm working on trying to change things enough so that there isn't a trail of hurt people next time.
I would prefer if this thread held a minimal amount of jokes and speculation. Waldo deserves to have his rightness on this shown with the same light as what I thought his wrongness was. If you have any questions about what's gone on or what I'm alluding to, you may feel free to ask me directly. You know how to find me. Except of course for the one person that shouldn't have to ask.
And in the future, for anyone who sees this, I want to ask you to do something. If someone in this league attacks you, harasses you, treats you like garbage, or whatever it is in a way you don't like. Tell someone. Tell your GM. Talk to a site owner. Talk to a member of HO. Talk to me. Whatever it takes. One person should never be able to ruin the fun or large parts of the fun for so many fucking people without almost any peep about things happening. This league and this hobby are about fun. They should remain so.
-AdamS