06-26-2022, 05:57 PM
(This post was last modified: 06-26-2022, 05:58 PM by mithrandir. Edited 1 time in total.)
(For legal reasons I would like to inform you the following is a copypasta)
Alright, first of all: To all the people meme-ing this thread, heck off. she's a cat. she's got some issues. Be respectful. I'm pretty sure I know exactly who reported her and I don't think it's right to just whip this poop out.
And that gets to my second point that, again, Anya is just a cat. she's heckin 15 years old. When I was 15, I was a raging anti-feminist and one of my closest friends would end up becoming one of the faces of fascism in America. I'm a much much much better person at 22 than I was at 15 and I still don't think I've done enough improvement. Everyone's got the opportunity to grow, everybody should be working every day on becoming a slightly kinder person than the day before. That's what the anime quote in my sig was for the longest time. she's a cat, she's got time to grow.
The third thing is a bit more pointed. I really think we should start considering an age limit for the league. Almost every time I've seen a user with chronic issues with the rules, they've been a high school cat. Sure, you can call me out or whatever on what I've done, but I have done my best at every turn to try to help teach these cats some form of empathy to the point where eventually I was "league mom". I'm genuinely proud of my cats for having grown up as people and that they're not little pieces of poop still. They got the chance to improve. But it shouldn't be on the shoulders of those in the league to be mothers to these cats. There are obviously adults who have issues with empathy and need to learn a thing or two about kindness, but at least then they're treated like adults and given adult punishments because they should've learned by now. When dealing with these cats, it gets trickier.
You read this punishment and it is the same sort of callous boilerplate sentencing that you would see in an actual professional format. That's normal in the adult world. But when we bring in a high school student, tell them they're "in violation of the code of conduct and will be penalized" that sounds like the principal saying they need you to call your parents and you know that was the scariest hecking thing you had to do in school (I had to do it so many times and it's the worst). It tells the cat that they hecked up and there's nothing they can do to fix it. When it comes to punishing a cat, you need to make it a moment for them to learn from and unfortunately, the rules in this league are never going to have a delicate touch because we NEED to make sure everyone is treated equally. Even the children. Because if not, then we're talking about preferential treatment.
So yeah, get rid of the cats. There are a few success stories, but there are many more who end up either walking away for one reason or another or they cause trouble and then leave when they feel unwanted.
I had a very contentious relationship with Anya in the Minnesota LR and the DSFL gen chat. she understands that at this time she hasn't done enough to deserve forgiveness for the things she's done and said to certain people. But I want her to understand that forgiveness is a process to work on. You aren't the same person forever and you can take moments like this to learn to become that better person. I've come back to this league still on my own journey to work towards forgiveness from a few people and I'm not just gonna let her chicken out and quit before she's even started.
Anya: Don't be a hecking quitter and get good. Because it's gonna help you a lot in life if you can learn that now.
Alright, first of all: To all the people meme-ing this thread, heck off. she's a cat. she's got some issues. Be respectful. I'm pretty sure I know exactly who reported her and I don't think it's right to just whip this poop out.
And that gets to my second point that, again, Anya is just a cat. she's heckin 15 years old. When I was 15, I was a raging anti-feminist and one of my closest friends would end up becoming one of the faces of fascism in America. I'm a much much much better person at 22 than I was at 15 and I still don't think I've done enough improvement. Everyone's got the opportunity to grow, everybody should be working every day on becoming a slightly kinder person than the day before. That's what the anime quote in my sig was for the longest time. she's a cat, she's got time to grow.
The third thing is a bit more pointed. I really think we should start considering an age limit for the league. Almost every time I've seen a user with chronic issues with the rules, they've been a high school cat. Sure, you can call me out or whatever on what I've done, but I have done my best at every turn to try to help teach these cats some form of empathy to the point where eventually I was "league mom". I'm genuinely proud of my cats for having grown up as people and that they're not little pieces of poop still. They got the chance to improve. But it shouldn't be on the shoulders of those in the league to be mothers to these cats. There are obviously adults who have issues with empathy and need to learn a thing or two about kindness, but at least then they're treated like adults and given adult punishments because they should've learned by now. When dealing with these cats, it gets trickier.
You read this punishment and it is the same sort of callous boilerplate sentencing that you would see in an actual professional format. That's normal in the adult world. But when we bring in a high school student, tell them they're "in violation of the code of conduct and will be penalized" that sounds like the principal saying they need you to call your parents and you know that was the scariest hecking thing you had to do in school (I had to do it so many times and it's the worst). It tells the cat that they hecked up and there's nothing they can do to fix it. When it comes to punishing a cat, you need to make it a moment for them to learn from and unfortunately, the rules in this league are never going to have a delicate touch because we NEED to make sure everyone is treated equally. Even the children. Because if not, then we're talking about preferential treatment.
So yeah, get rid of the cats. There are a few success stories, but there are many more who end up either walking away for one reason or another or they cause trouble and then leave when they feel unwanted.
I had a very contentious relationship with Anya in the Minnesota LR and the DSFL gen chat. she understands that at this time she hasn't done enough to deserve forgiveness for the things she's done and said to certain people. But I want her to understand that forgiveness is a process to work on. You aren't the same person forever and you can take moments like this to learn to become that better person. I've come back to this league still on my own journey to work towards forgiveness from a few people and I'm not just gonna let her chicken out and quit before she's even started.
Anya: Don't be a hecking quitter and get good. Because it's gonna help you a lot in life if you can learn that now.
