(08-16-2022, 02:04 PM)soevil Wrote:(08-16-2022, 01:58 PM)Gadget Wrote:(08-16-2022, 01:54 PM)soevil Wrote: And just to flatly say it, I understand that my attitude may have (or has) impacted other users in the league. Perhaps I am just more direct, but if anyone has had a problem with me being "rude", reach out to me and discuss it. Multiple users have mentioned new users coming in and being afraid to go to a certain team for fear of retaliatory harrassment on my account? If I genuinely thought this was that extreme, I would have tightened up when it was made actually apparent. Of the two users @SchwarzNarr and @Gadget (wouldn't let me tag him), I pretty quickly reached out to them to hash it out.
You reached out, but we did not "Hash things out." you gave me a non-apology in an extremely passive aggressive tone that summed up to "I'm sorry you got offended." That is not a proper apology and I was very disappointed, especially since prior to that our only conversation was a lovely scouting conversation.
Do you think this is a good apology?
I cant see the image right now, but that sounds about right. In this context, I explained that I misjudged the situation and should not have said that to you and that I will refrain from contacting you in the future.
This is the problem man, if you would just give a sincere apology acknowledging your own actions, everything would be cool. But you just can’t help but to cover any attempt at an apology in the backhanded “sorry you’re offended” tone. That’s not and has never been how apologies work. You aren’t sorry, you aren’t apologizing for your actions. You believe these people just “don’t get it”. If you genuinely wanted to reconcile there wouldn’t be a need for “refraining from future contact” ya’ll would just be able to get along in the future.
It is very clear to me and everyone else here that you don’t see your actions as a problem. You believe that the people who are upset by your actions are the problem. And this is to put it simply: narcissistic behavior.