soevil Conduct Detrimental

[soevil]

evil, my man you're just digging yourself into a deep hole here responding to all these comments. Just take the warning and be nice to people its really not hard.

Hey, I appreciate the words! At this point, I'm just trying to give the lurkers a show.

[platanocat]

And just to flatly say it, I understand that my attitude may have (or has) impacted other users in the league. Perhaps I am just more direct, but if anyone has had a problem with me being "rude", reach out to me and discuss it. Multiple users have mentioned new users coming in and being afraid to go to a certain team for fear of retaliatory harrassment on my account? If I genuinely thought this was that extreme, I would have tightened up when it was made actually apparent. Of the two users @SchwarzNarr and @Gadget (wouldn't let me tag him), I pretty quickly reached out to them to hash it out.

You reached out, but we did not "Hash things out." you gave me a non-apology in an extremely passive aggressive tone that summed up to "I'm sorry you got offended." That is not a proper apology and I was very disappointed, especially since prior to that our only conversation was a lovely scouting conversation.




Do you think this is a good apology?

oh shiiiiiit! Gadget whipping out the receipts. Idk you but i like you.

[TeyonSchavari]

And just to flatly say it, I understand that my attitude may have (or has) impacted other users in the league. Perhaps I am just more direct, but if anyone has had a problem with me being "rude", reach out to me and discuss it. Multiple users have mentioned new users coming in and being afraid to go to a certain team for fear of retaliatory harrassment on my account? If I genuinely thought this was that extreme, I would have tightened up when it was made actually apparent. Of the two users @SchwarzNarr and @Gadget (wouldn't let me tag him), I pretty quickly reached out to them to hash it out.

There are multiple things that I don't think you're getting, but I'll name a few.

For one, you are shifting the blame of your actions onto those affected. Which is nearly everyone except for you. Maybe your comments or actions aren't directed at someone specific, sometimes they definitely are, and it is NOT on them or any of us to learn how you communicate or why you act so harshly or in a manner that is either uncomfortable, offensive, or abrasive. It is on YOU to control your actions, not on others to control their reactions to how you make them feel. An apology doesn't make how you act ok or mean that you have to be forgiven. And the fact that not everyone has reached out to you or has made public how they feel does not mean that people aren't viewing your comments and actions negatively.

On another front, your 'apologies' have not been apologies. You have not once said "I'm sorry that I have been acting poorly," instead going with something to the effect of "I apologize if my words offended you." This is not remorse or an active effort to change, as apologies are supposed to suggest. It only is absolving yourself of blame once again, and putting the blame on everyone else for 'not getting it'. Instead, take a serious look in the mirror and see what you can be doing better, and make an effort to change.

Most importantly, you are a DSFL GM. You represent the league from a management position. You are one of the first faces a prospective rookie is going see and interact with that they will look to as a role model. Acting as you have on discord and in public facing spaces is not conducive to a positive community environment, and has and will drive new users away. As a league we expect a DSFL GM to be friendly, welcoming, and a positive representation of this league. As evidenced by the actions you have taken since becoming GM and the many, many responses regarding those actions here, you have been the opposite of that type of person

[platanocat]

so_evil like the type of person who says “if you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best”.

[infinitempg]

Hey, I appreciate the words! At this point, I'm just trying to give the lurkers a show.

[ImSatanJunior]

Just wanted to feel involved in this soon to be famous thread.

Soevil be like:

[moonlight]

@soevil is my spirit animal aka multi.

F the yeti

[negs]

@soevil is my spirit animal aka multi.

F the yeti

This should be fun

[Raven]

@soevil is my spirit animal aka multi.

F the yeti

Gotta hand in your award now. Non of that.

[Starboy]

Can we ban @zaynzk from doing copy pasta?

Please